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Back to school 10 #must-read safety tips

Some recently published statistics amazed me. Did you know that:

  • Most pedestrian traffic injuries happen to 5 to 9 yo kids in mid-block crossings and 10 to 14 yo at intersections? 
  • Until children are about 8 yo, it is actually difficult for them to assess whether a vehicle is moving or not?
  • The chances of a child on foot surviving being hit by a car that is going 30 km/h is 90%, but if that car is driving 50 km/h that chance of survival drops to 10%?
  • School start is a high risk period for accidents as both drivers and kids re-adjust to each other’s increased presence on the streets.

Here are 10 #must read tips to help keep kids safe:

  1. Give your kids some information about road accidents. Unless your kids have seen TV shows about it, most would have no understanding of accidents entail. Showing them a few photos of the damage that cars sustain is often helpful to get them to realize how dangerous accidents can be. Just do a search and select a few photos ahead of time as otherwise some photos may be too scary.
  2. Dress your kids to be easily seen. When walking and biking, wear high visibility clothing and back pack, ideally with reflective elements to it, especially in rain or snow. 
  3. Teach your kids defensive walking. “Always look left and right and then left again before crossing a street, and make eye contact with drivers so you know they’ve seen you.” Kids do learn the rules eventually, the dangers are not over. Kids who are proud to know the rules incorrectly assume that everyone always follows them! Help them understand that sometimes drivers make mistakes or can’t see them easily – so it’s not safe to take it for granted that the car will stop at a light, it’s better to wait until it’s clearly safe to cross. Also teach them not to stand too close to a corner especially on busy intersections. 
  4. Use crosswalks whenever possible. When walking or cycling with your kids to and from school, map out a route that has the least amount of street crossings, and/or the most pedestrian crossing lights or marked crosswalks.
  5. Tech gadgets interfere with safety. Many teens often wear head phones over both ears and/or text and walk – which makes them unable to notice and respond to danger. Get them to unplug and leave gadgets in backpacks when walking or cycling to and from school so you can focus on the road and see, hear and respond safely. (Tip: The easiest way to do that is to get them to walk/cycle in a group – see next paragraph.) 
  6. Safety in numbers. If you’re not walking your child to school, find a friend for them to walk with. If you have not heard about these, look into creating a walking bus for your neighborhood – this is a great site with instructions on why and how to do it.
  7. When biking – do it right! Use hand signals when riding a bike and always wear a properly fitted CSA approved bike helmet when riding…it’s safer – and it’s the law.
  8. What’s my address? Make sure younger children know at least one parent’s phone number and their home address. Also get set up with an emergency record and network system – for example great new free services such as ePACT help you quickly create your family’s online emergency record. Just go to and start a free account. It takes minutes to enter the information that matters – contact numbers and medical needs. Then you can link to relatives, friends and organizations (like schools and sports teams). This can support you every day and is life saving in a crisis.
  9. Set up a secret password – and they are not to go in a car or with someone who doesn’t know the password.
  10. Check-in after school. If you’re not home when your child gets back from school, have them check in with you. How old before they can do that? Usually depends on how big is your city and how far away you are from the school. Most children are comfortable doing so after they turn 12yo, but increasingly many parents are not! Remember the ruckus caused by a New York mom who lets her 9 yo ride the subway alone… That mom – Leonore Skenazy – became a celebrity afterwards, launching a site, a book and even a TV show on “free range kids” – how to raise safe self-reliant children.

Finally – drivers: Slow down and drop the mobile devices. Please do this yourself and tell at least seven others – a small gesture of random act of kindness that can save lives: 

  • The posted speed limit in school zones is 30 km/h. In good weather, it takes a vehicle 13 metres to come to a complete stop when driving at 30 km/h, but it takes 27 metres – more than double that distance – when driving at 50 km/h. For the record – I find both numbers scary… 13 meters at 30km/hr is less than 2 seconds to react and to stop! 
  • Using a mobile device while driving is like driving drunk! The law is catching up and in many jurisdictions it’s now finally illegal for drivers to hold, operate, communicate or watch the screen of a hand-held electronic communication device, including sending or receiving text messages or electronic e-mail on any type. The evidence is multiplying that even hands free devices are super distracting – there is a four- to six-fold higher risk of collisions when talking on a cellphone, and a 23 times (yikes!) increased risk of crashes or near-crashes while reading and sending text messages.

Remember that the key with kids is repetition as for them something a few months ago is a very distant memory, so review these rules before Halloween (sadly another prime time for kids vs vehicle accidents).

Alexandra T. Greenhill, MD, mother of three CEO and Co-founder myBestHelper


First days of school – must read advice


Starting school is a different experience for everyone and there are some things that can make it better. For younger kids especially, you can:

1. Read books on starting school – from Dumpy to Franklin to Caillou – there is a plethora of books on how it feels to start school and what to expect. Kids learn a surprising amount of stuff from books and re-reading them before and for the first weeks of school brings reassurance and pleasure. One of our favorite ones is “Suki’s Kimono” by Chieri Uegaki, where Suki happily wears to school a kimono that was a gift from her grandmother to the consternation of her sister who wears more modern clothing. Delightfully told and gorgeously illustrated is a wonderful tale of being true to who you are. For a fuller section of books on back to school we recommend, see our page.

2. Review what they did over the summer – many kids are stumped when other children or their teachers ask them what they did on their holidays. A quick reminder of anything cool or a bit unusual that they can excitedly describe (see earlier blog post on ideas for that) helps them feel prepared and they can excel in a situation where otherwise they appear tongue tied.

3. Let them bring one special item – school supplies or a small toy that they chose. While focused on lists supplied by the school, we often forget a small-not-required-fun something that makes them feel loved and special. It need not be a new thing, but something that they want and makes them feel special is helpful to overcome the feeling of being overwhelmed. The one thing to remember is that it needs to be something that will not be a disaster if lost or broken. One of our kids went to school with a key chain with a cool insect trapped in an amber stone only to return in tears as one of her classmates deliberately picked it up and proceed to crash it with a stone. The boy was reprimanded, but the key chain was not replaceable and the memory still causes tearful eyes for her.

4. Organize play dates with classmates – getting kids to spend some one-on-one time outside of school helps create better connections within school. If they are grade 3 or below, the adults often need to help set these up and get them going, so get to know the other parents and take the initiative – the other parents are often grateful to be approached!

5. Discuss your own memories – good and bad – as this helps kids realize that it needs not to be perfect and reduces their fears. Get them to connect to extended family by asking grandparents, aunts and uncles about their memories from school.  

After they are back from their first days, to avoid monosyllabic responses, don’t start with the overwhelmingly open ended “So, how was your day?”. Instead you can go for “Who did you play with? What was your favorite activity? Why did you enjoy it? Was anything surprising? Did anything make you sad? What changed in the school? What/who did you look forward to seeing again?” Specific questions can encourage even the most tired and reluctant little kid into a lovely conversation. With some kids, to get to an answer, you have to get them to draw what they liked the most about their first day. 

Alexandra T. Greenhill, MD, mother of three CEO and Co-founder myBestHelper